It was reported as a potential destructive force by the news and media outlets.
This is how many people reacted.
1: In the rush to get a full tank of gas (at the media’s urging) there were lines at the pumps, however some decided to try cut people off rather than wait their turn, nearly causing accidents.
2: Some literally tried to steal bread from other people’s shopping carts because bread was sold out in the grocery stores.
3: They bought out entire inventories of flashlights, candles, and batteries and some fought for that too.
After all was said and done, it’s possible that this behavior actually did more damage to more people than the hurricane did. It created tension, stress, anger and confusion before the storm even hit. And why? All because people worry.
On one Facebook conversation, someone who was a “worrier” wondered why I was so calm and took my calm as a lack of caring. I was clear when I said, I’m prepared, and until they tell me evacuation is mandatory, I’m staying put, it’s business as usual. They still didn’t get it, they even said “we’ve been warned” and “So why not take a chance with ur life. Stay.” Completely missing the point that I would never put my life at risk but I also won’t prematurely act or worry at all.
Worry clouds your mind, you don’t think clearly and you act on emotion and that is very dangerous.
Change Your Mind.
Ask yourself this question: Are you acting concerned or worried?
“There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.” ~Harold Stephens
To have a better understanding of the two, I found this definition and when you let this sink in, it’s both eye opening and insightful.
1. Concern: means to “have an interest in, give attention to, be engaged by a situation, as a matter of consideration or responsibility”
2. Worry: is “a disquieted uneasiness of mind, an anxious apprehension concerning an impending or anticipated situation; fretting about a foreboding misfortune or failure.”
3. Anxiety: is “a psychological designation of abnormal, overwhelming apprehension; anguished uncertainty and self-doubt about one’s ability to cope with the situation, to the point of becoming distressed, distraught, panicky or tormented.”
Coincidentally, “worried” and “anxious” are used as synonyms.
Break it Down
I always say this:
“worry is stressing about a situation that may or may not occur and it’s always in the negative sense.”
Plus, worry can cause you to bring the bad situations that you’re worried about to fruition, because your thoughts control your actions. Think about it this way, if you think you’re going to fail, will you really try your best? No, we’ve seen it hundreds of times, in sports, in relationships and in business, people give up.
Worry is a waste of your time and energy and accomplishes absolutely nothing. You are never better off for worrying (remember the difference between concern and worry), it adds no value to anyone, only negativity and chaos. It affects your health and is detrimental to others around you.
“I lived a long life and I had many troubles, most of which never happened” ~Mark Twain
What are you worrying about anyway? And how much of it has come true?
If we only had a breakdown of our worries, that would be good right? Well, we’re in luck, Earl Nightingale presented us with an authoritative estimate of what most people worry about.
- Things that never happen: 40 percent. 40 percent of the things you worry about will never occur anyway.
- Things over and past that can’t be changed: 30 percent.
- Needless worries about our health: 12 percent.
- Petty, miscellaneous worries: 10 percent.
- Real, legitimate concerns: 8 percent.
Only 8 percent of your “worries” are worth concerning yourself about. Ninety-two percent are pure fog with no substance at all.
Back to the Future
If you are “worried” you are not in the present moment, you are looking ahead to a negative future. Is that the future you want? You’re also being selfish, just like the drivers cutting people off, or people trying to steal bread, as if their needs are the only needs that matter, as if you’re the only one with problems.
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” ~Matt 6:34
Decide today to figure out if you are worried or concerned about something and if it’s worry, start to change your behavior. Whether you care to admit it or not, worry has done nothing for you, and you may be resistant to changing, you may even try to justify your worry, but the bottom line is that it does no good to worry.
Thanks to my awesome brother Joe for some of his insights used in this post.
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer