Now that some time has past since last week’s blog, let’s move onto the next thing that may be holding you back from living the life that you deserve . . . your attitude.
Attitude is like a boomerang, what you send out comes back. Smile and someone smiles back or yell and someone yells back. Maybe not every time, but more often than not.
“Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.”
Your attitude can do major damage to your life, it can affect your health and your relationships, both personally and in your career, that is, if it’s a bad attitude.
“The only disability in life is a bad attitude.”
For the record, you were not born with a bad attitude. I think we can safely assume that you didn’t lie in the crib thinking . . .
“who are these people and why are they so happy to see me? Oh man, this is gonna suck.”
In fact, as children we’re actually taught (at least part of the time) to have a positive attitude. You must have seen Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs or at least heard the song Whistle While You Work, but have you ever taken notice of the words?
“Just whistle while you work and cheerfully together we can tidy up the place. So hum a merry tune, it won’t take long when there’s a song to help you set the pace.”
Now that I’m an adult (well most of the time) I can see pretty clearly that this song is all about having a positive attitude. Let’s look at another classic childhood favorite, one that we can still sing along with it to this very day. From Mary Poppins.
“A Spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, the medicine go down, the medicine go down. Just a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, in a most delightful way”
Maybe that’s not very obvious so let’s see what another part of the song says:
“In ev’ry job that must be done, there is an element of fun. You find the fun and snap! The job’s a game and ev’ry task you undertake becomes a piece of cake.”
Hmmm, it seems that too is about your attitude. Are you looking for things to be fun, or expect them to be drudgery? The choice is yours. Did you enjoy your job or your spouse before? Maybe you can enjoy them now.
Oh and does this ring a bell? “I think I can, I think I can . . .”
PMA or PMS?
PMA stand for Positive Mental Attitude. Positive mental attitude is a psychological term that describes a mental phenomenon in which someone can increase achievement through optimistic thought processes. As in, “I think I can . . .”
A PMA implies that one has a vision or expectation of positive outcomes or changes first in their thoughts. It flips the switch to a state of mind that continues to seek, find and execute ways to win, or find a desirable outcome, regardless of the circumstances. It rejects negativity, defeat and hopelessness. PMA combats your unconscious stress, allowing you to think more clearly and make better decisions.
Viktor Frankl survived the holocaust because he was able to exercise the most important freedom of all, the freedom to determine one’s attitude and spiritual well being. No Nazi SS guard was able to take that away from him or control the inner life of his soul.
If you no longer have a positive attitude, what changed and when? Somewhere along the line something must have happened to really get to you. Maybe people around you were negative. Maybe you were hurt or failed in the past. It’s possible that you didn’t consciously became a Negative Nancy but it’s also possible that you can get yourself out of it. Everyone gets hurt and makes mistakes, failure is not fatal, and it’s always how you respond that will matter. Forget the past and look forward to what lies ahead, but this time try having a positive outlook.
“We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.”
~Charles R Swindoll
Make it a Double
Do you need an attitude adjustment? Well, I mean one that isn’t the latest flavored vodka? Each day make a conscious effort to be aware of your thoughts. Are they negative? Do you expect doom? Do you expect to fail? Try a new attitude at home or at work. You may be surprised at the results. At some point we all need to learn that while you can’t change the outside circumstances, you can control the inside, as in how you react to those circumstances. You control you and you control your emotions. You can either react in fear, hate or negativity, or choose to respond with calm, understanding and optimism.
“Life is great. Don’t let circumstances and society fool you into believing it’s not.”
So attitude truly is everything. When an athlete can be described as having a winning attitude, all they’re saying is that he or she is optimistic, that they can overcome obstacles, that they think they’ll win. Do you have a winning attitude? How many people do you know who might say “if they pay me more, I’ll work harder?” That’s not a very good attitude. Especially when you consider that if they worked harder, it’s more likely they would get paid more!
“Attitude, not aptitude will determine your altitude.”
Make it a great day!
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer