The driving instructor taught you to constantly scan the road ahead. You need to keep your eyes not only on what’s directly in front of you, but further down the road as well. This allows you to be better prepared for anything unexpected that might happen.
You need to be aware of upcoming driving conditions; this way if you notice the next traffic light has been green for a while, you’ll be more prepared to stop if the light changes to yellow, then red. There might be brake lights up ahead when it appears people should not be stopping. Are there kids playing basketball in their driveway or in the street? These are a few reasons why you must look further than the hood of your car.
You must be able to react, if necessary, so that your trip will be smoother and you’ll arrive at your destination safely and successfully.
“People only see what they are prepared to see.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Blinded by the Light
The same can be said when it comes to opportunities that we encounter in our lives. Are you only looking at your present situation (what’s right in front of you) and thinking it’s permanent and unchangeable down the road? If one could shift their focus off of the “problem” and instead seek a long-term solution, they would be able to start to overcome whatever might be stressing them out. For example, have you ever noticed the way that people focus on their finances? They usually are concerned about how little money they make and how much their bills are.
Instead of stressing over the fact that you have all these bills (because we all have bills), how about going beyond the bills and figuring out exactly what you can do to improve that situation so that in a year from now it’s better? If you ask yourself “How can I reduce my bills?” you will find that there are answers, and this will allow you to create a plan by looking ahead, rather than staring at the bills like a deer in the headlights.
- Can you trade in your car for a lower priced vehicle to reduce your payment?
- Can you temporarily cut out one frivolous thing per day, week or month and use that money towards debt?
- Can you take a take a second or even a third job?
- Do you know exactly where every penny is being spent?
You can relieve this stressor over time if you want to. There is always a way if you’re willing to do it.
“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” ~Albert Einstein
Can You See the Real Me?
Back in the day when I was pursuing my goals as a musician, I lived at home with my parents beyond what was considered the norm. Since 90% of the time I was doing music either locally or out of state it was often a bed and a shower for me, so paying rent somewhere didn’t really make sense. Plus, my mom is a great cook, so why leave? It also seemed acceptable to me because in traditional Italian families it’s customary that you don’t move out until you get married. Obviously, being married to music didn’t count.
On more than one occasion I remember this scenario. I’d see an attractive girl somewhere and after an exchange of smiles and a few flirty hair tosses (theirs, not mine) we would start talking. But when the conversation revealed that I still lived at home, they were instantly no longer interested in me. That is very shortsighted thinking on their part.
- Am I always going to live at home with my parents?
- Did they know the circumstances as to why I currently live at home?
- Did they still live at home?
- In that short time did they get to know any of the other qualities I possess that may be important to them?
Maybe I could have been the person they had been looking for their entire life. Maybe I was their soul mate and we could have ended up married and/or living together. But they would never find this out because they looked at my current (and temporary) situation as if it was written in stone. Why was it such an issue? Did they plan on moving in with me that very night? You never know, I suppose.
Instead of seeing past the hood of the car, they saw a deal breaker. And by doing so, they remained frozen, exactly where they were before meeting me, still in search of a boyfriend or husband.
What are you stuck on?
We should always try to find opportunities in the problems, instead of problems in the opportunity, so figure out whatever it is that you’d like to change about your life, business or relationships and hit the gas! Keep your sights on the future and envision what it can become, rather than convincing yourself that it will remain as it is right now.
“Each problem has hidden in it an opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem. The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem and turned it into an opportunity.”
Rock Star Success Coach & Sales Trainer