We all grieve, we all hurt, we all stumble and fall in the dirt.
We all cry, and feel sorrow, take my hand to heal tomorrow.
What does it mean to show compassion?
It is not to simply feel bad for someone, and give them a break. It goes well beyond that. True compassion means to actually suffer with others, be empathetic, embrace their pain, and breath in their feelings to the point where you might alleviate that pain. This is true selflessness.
Eyes Wide Shut
Sometime we tend to pity others when they are hurting and sometimes we judge. Instead we should justify their pain. If you seek first to understand why that person feels the way they do, it’s easier to put yourself in a compassionate frame of mind.
When you dig deep inside of yourself, you’ll find that you can relate to almost any pain you witness. Why else would you be able to cry while watching a sorrowful movie scene? Because you can relate to it, somehow. It could be an actor who you’ve never seen before, a total stranger, and yet you can easily feel compassion for them, you connect with their pain. This tells us that you can also do it for loved ones, co-workers and of course total strangers.
Instead of doing just enough, go the extra mile. Don’t send a card; call. Don’t just call; go to them. Don’t hand them a tissue; wipe their tears and hug them, not with your body but with your heart and soul. Embrace them with love and give them the gift of your time, which is the most precious gift we have to give. Take the time to cover them with compassion.
Let your own insecurities or uncomfortable feelings go and open up to others. This will provide healing for both of you.
We all experience loss, struggles and pain, therefore we all need to bond and lift one another up during those times. We are all connected so when we seek to heal someone, we are healing ourselves and others around us. We are leading by example.
The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the interdependence of all these living beings, which are all part of one another, and all involved in one another.
Take What You’re Giving
Do you ever feel as if you need compassion from others? Then you must give it. Do not let pride, failure, ignorance or fear prevent you from reaching out to others in their time of need. Open up to them and it will open up new worlds to you. Release and you will receive.
We are all creatures in need of attention, affection, appreciation and compassion. Give those things freely and then and only then, will you receive them in abundance.
This is the boomerang of life returning what we throw out, otherwise known as sowing and reaping. Yell at someone and they yell back, smile and they smile back. Forgive and you will be forgiven. Be compassionate to others and you will receive compassion in return. Everything you do for others is also doing something for you. It strengthens you, stretches you and positions you to lead a magnificent life.
Compassion is sometimes the fatal capacity for feeling what it is like to live inside somebody else’s skin. It is the knowledge that there can never really be any peace and joy for me until there is peace and joy finally for you too.
Compassion will cure more sins than condemnation.
~Henry Ward Beecher
We all make mistakes; but how often do we have compassion for others when they screw up? Who are we to determine whether or not someone is allowed to feel hurt, discouraged or sad? All too often we forget that we all make poor decisions or feel upset at one time or another.
Life itself is full of growth and obstacles, therefore we cannot judge others, not without being in the same exact position they are in. But we can justify them.
Sometimes it’s difficult to understand why someone might feel a certain way. Remember we all share a common thread, we are all human and therefore flawed. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. For this reason alone we should be compassionate and accepting of one another.
We don’t have to understand every situation, we only have to understand that this is a living, breathing creature worthy of love. We are always responsible for our actions. We cannot control others but we can control ourselves.
Think compassion, show compassion and sow compassion, in your words and actions and this will create an empowering change in your life and in the lives of others.
- You will not know life until you know compassion
- You will not know love until you know compassion
- You will not know joy until you know compassion
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
Rock Star Success Coach & Sales Trainer