What if you were a marionette? Merely a puppet attached to strings reliant upon someone else controlling all your moves, making you dance or act at their whim. Sounds as if it would be fun for everyone except you, doesn’t it?
Sometimes you may feel like a puppet going through the motions day-after-day with satisfaction escaping you, but there’s good news, you are NOT a marionette. If you’re an adult and not institutionalized then you have to a large degree, control over your life, your decisions, your career and your relationships.
Whether you believe it or admit it or not, it’s true. You control you.
My life didn’t please me, so I created my life.
We all experience emotions but do other people control our emotions? If that were true then wouldn’t they also be able to influence us so that we’d be happy, calm, cool and collected whenever they chose?
I have seen times where someone who cares about a friend or family member has not been able to make the other person feel better. They could not lift them out of what was a funk of sadness or pain.
Even though they care for the other’s well being and want them to be okay, they cannot make them feel better. That rules out the possibility that someone else can control our emotions. No can make you sad or angry and no one can make you happy. It’s up to you.
A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.
Don’t worry, be happy
I often ask those who are feeling sad and dejected to recall their fondest memories and tell me about it. Sometimes it might be special holiday gift they received, or maybe it was winning an award at school or a dance recital where they experienced applause for the first time.
Regardless of the specific event, I always witnessed something magical happen. Every one of them became happier while sharing the details of their joyous times. They relived the positive emotions that they felt at that time. Their mood changed for the better because they actually felt that same pleasure once again. They instantly changed their moods by changing their minds. Your thoughts are powerful, use them wisely.
You cannot always control circumstances, but you can control your own thoughts. ~Charles Popplestown
The human machine
At birth you are equipped with the most powerful asset anyone could ask for, a brain. This super-computer in your head gives you an incredible power. The power to choose.
You chose your job, and your spouse if you have one, and even the car you drive. Regardless of the reasons, you chose each of these. You also choose to keep the job, the spouse and the car. Does your job suck? Forget any excuses that come to mind about why you can’t leave and start planning a way to change it right now.
What have you based these life choices on? Immediate satisfaction or long term benefits? Sometimes we lack knowledge and experience so we can make some poor choices or we allow temporary things to become permanent. But as we grow in maturity we should realize the amazing power we have in our ability to choose.
We should also consider the long term affects these choices can have on us, if there are any. How will it impact us in the next year or the next ten years? And it’s important to always be aware of what we can or cannot control. When something out of your control happens, don’t continue to be the victim long after it happens, instead choose to be the victor!
Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.
May the force be with you
We obviously cannot control certain events, so what can we control? We can control how we react to those events. Meaning we can choose our own thoughts and responses to any given situation.
If it rains on a day that you planned to be outdoors or on your one day off, you have choices as to how to react. You can either think “well, this ruins my entire day” or another thought could be “I can always catch up on reading that book” or “I can shift gears and do something fun indoors instead.”
However you respond changes the result. One choice is a defeated mindset. Those thoughts might not allow you to do anything productive or fun, they drain you. The other choice empowers you to have a good time in spite of any minor setback.
Your reaction can be positive or negative, it’s all up to you. Start to become aware of your thoughts and your choices and decide to pull your own strings and dance for yourself!
Life gives us choices. You either grab on with both hands and just go for it, or you sit on the sidelines.
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer