What ever limits us, we call fate.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
I think it’s safe to say that everyone wants to be star in their field. And it seems that almost anyone can be a star regardless of talent, just take a look at some reality shows. So the question is, why aren’t you “a star?” Well, there can several reasons but for now, I’ll focus on one.
I’ve heard many people say that they “caught a bad break.” And that might be true some of the time, but if you caught a bad break, was it permanent? Will that bad break actually last for your entire life? Did you choose or allow the bad break? On the off chance you did, isn’t it time you chose to break free from it?
Speaking of bad breaks, I’m a drummer, and have been since my early teens. Seventeen years ago I had a car accident (not due to bad brakes) that left me with a wicked back injury and doctors told me that I would never play drums again. At first I believed them. Then three years later a good friend urged me to play again and I’ve been playing ever since. I’ve been on tour and performed on TV and radio, so essentially I got my big break.
I still perform despite a second injury to my back in 2007 and another car accident that added some complications in August of 2010. In all cases I focused on being able to play again instead of thinking I couldn’t play.
It was positive visualization, which I feel (as do others) greatly assisted my healing. Had I listened to what the doctors said years ago, I would have missed an opportunity to do what I love, at the level of a professional.
I truly believe that we can overcome any hurdle that lies before us and create the life we want to live. I have seen it happen time and time again.
Get up and go
If you do have some sort of disability or had an accident that permanently and/or drastically changed your life, please don’t feel as if I’m not being empathetic. Instead allow me to share with you how even in a case where you do have one of those life changing, or a life long bad breaks, you should realize that you can still achieve and succeed.
Just consider the following examples of people who overcame some pretty bad breaks:
• Bill Porter was born with cerebral palsy, yet became the top salesman for Watkins Inc. I suggest that you Rent the movie Door to Door with William H Macy, it’s inspiring and it’ll make you cry. If you’re generally healthy, you may also feel like a cry-baby for ever complaining.
• Jim Abbot became a professional baseball player in spite of the fact that he was born missing his right hand. He even pitched a no hitter, no small accomplishment.
• Amy Palmiero-Winters is an athlete and friend of mine who has an amazing story. In 1994, Amy had a motorcycle accident. Three years and twenty-five surgeries later, her left leg was amputated below the knee. To make a long story short, last year she was voted one of the Top 10 Best Runners of the Decade. Her accomplishments are inspiring, check them out here: Amy Winters
And have you heard of Helen Keller?
Don’t believe what your eyes are telling you. All they show is limitation. Look with your understanding, find out what you already know, and you’ll see the way to fly. ~Richard Bach
Now let’s look at this realistically. If you don’t have a debilitating condition, then you really have no excuse. Granted, you may be crippled by discouragement, past failure, fear of success, or fear of failure. But none of that matters, because that stuff is in the past and since you cannot change the past, the only thing that matters is today, right now. Today you have as much of a shot as anyone else to get what you want, so take it.
I recommend that you focus on two things: one is something we all have in common with the most successful people, and the second is something personal to you, which actually gives you an edge over everyone else.
#1: We all have the same amount of time in which to accomplish anything — 24 hours. Edison, Lincoln, Gates, Buffet, Jobs all had or have that. It levels the playing field. But it’s what you do with it that counts, so look into how you are investing your time and whether it’s propelling you toward your goals or not.
#2: Remember this one thing that sets you apart. You are one of a kind! You have unique characteristics that only you possess, no one else. So discover or rediscover them and use them to your advantage. Lean on your strengths and be aware of your weaknesses, while you strengthen them.
Oh and you must get started, you must act!
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.
It’s all relative
It’s true that we must all come to terms with our own handicaps but we must also overcome our own limitations. A handicap doesn’t mean you deserve to fail or you’re unlucky, it may mean you need to forge your own path. If even for one moment you think that you can’t be a huge success, you’re wrong! Do not make excuses, make progress. Prove everyone wrong!
Don’t let fear hold you back, don’t be discouraged by those who say the sky is falling. Instead look for shelter, or build your own. This way when it rains you can let the naysayers in, this will give them a fine example of what they too can accomplish if they only try.
Start today, and each day moving steadily towards your goals, step by step. You can be successful, in fact, you’re already a star, the world is just waiting for you to shine!
Always aim for the Moon, even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.
~W Clement Stone
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer