Do you really expect everything to go perfectly? As if nothing will ever disappoint you? I’m an optimist, but it isn’t realistic to think all things will go as exactly as planned, every single time. Is it? Especially if other people, or outside factors, may be involved.
Let’s say you wake up, drag yourself out of bed and grab a cup of coffee. You look out the window and see that it’s raining, is that good or bad?
If you’re a bride and it’s the day of your outdoor wedding, you probably wouldn’t be very happy about the rain. Especially after you check the forecast and it says rain is expected all day. Even though it’s supposed to be good luck, you might feel a bit let down about it.
Now let’s say when you look out that window you’re a farmer who has experienced 90 days of drought and your livelihood depends upon the rain coming. In this case it’s obvious that the rain would be a welcome sight.
The bride would be disappointed, the farmer would be ecstatic, so what’s the difference?
Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses. ~Alphonse Karr
While certain events (like rain) might not be expected, we must at least consider it a possibility. And with that, we can make preparations in case an event occurs that might not be to our liking.
Sometimes things go perfectly, but when they don’t we don’t have to be defeated. So why not shift our perspective beforehand to avoid disappointment? Everyone would like to hope that all plans in life would go exactly as scripted, but that’s not always the case and it’s not very reasonable thinking. Stuff happens. And if it’s just an event and not an ongoing challenge (like illness or injury) then things may not be as bad as they seem after the smoke clears.
Zig Ziglar said expect the best, but prepare for the worst. This DOES NOT mean that you should expect the worst, instead you could have a plan B that is equal to plan A. Or at the very least, something that will make you equally satisfied. This way you can be prepared emotionally to accept it and be happy.
For instance, you can make sure you love the indoor option for that outdoor wedding, in case it rains. Schedule an alternate rain date for outdoor pictures so you and your soon to be spouse will have that covered too. The more prepared you are, the less you’ll have to worry about.
Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.
Business as usual
I have seen companies stagnate and fail because they never see any other perspective other than what brought them success in the past. They forge ahead ignoring warning signs, changes in trends and market developments, hoping for the best. Hope is certainly not a strategy, planning and acting is.
Challenges can and will happen in both business and personal relationships. Often they are unexpected and we cannot control that. Why not focus on what we can control to make things go smoothly? It’s all in the back up plan, and that shift in our perspective.
Define a few outcomes that you might expect. Label them as good, better and best results, then troubleshoot things you can accept or obstacles you can overcome if and when they happen. This way you can accept most or all events without any disappointment.
Expect the best, plan for the worst, and prepare to be surprised.
Rock Star Certified Life Coach & Sales Trainer