Since we’re very often surrounded with negativity, it’s easy to start your day in a bad mood. To paraphrase Earl Schoaff what most people do first thing in the morning is get the newspaper or watch the news on TV and feed all the negativity going on in the world directly into their minds.
I think it’s safe to say that after listening to stories about famine, wars, fatalities, divorce, crime, accidents, corruption, disasters and illnesses our mood can change quite drastically.
And that’s only in the morning. You may also encounter people throughout the day who don’t mind piling even more negativity on to you. “Did you hear about so and so?” “He got fired.” Or “Her husband left her.” Or “They had a terrible accident.”
All of that “bad” news can be pretty depressing and discouraging couldn’t it? Now, I’m not talking about lacking compassion when real tragedy strikes. That’s not what this is about. I’m talking about how easily your day can become one that’s filled with gossip or negativity, which will either sadden you, bring you down, burst your bubble, make you look bad or leave you feeling defeated.
In the computer field they have a phrase called “garbage in, garbage out.” It means that whatever you feed into the computer, is what will come back out. Since our brain is a computer, wouldn’t it make sense to be aware of what we feed into it? What are you feeding your computer?
I personally don’t read the paper or watch the news because what goes into my brain is critical to my happiness, health, well being and success. I also try to surround myself with positive people, places and things.
You should know that negative thinking is contrary to our birth right. We’re born thinking that there are no limits to what we can accomplish. When we were young if we wanted to be a fireman, the president or even a cowboy, we THOUGHT that we could do it. Okay, that’s mostly from the male perspective, but the point is that all of us used to think that we could do anything. The sky was the limit.
So what happened? Either we imposed new limits on ourselves, or we started to believe it when others told us what we could or could not do. As far as I’m concerned, I am as smart as my brother. I am thin enough, good looking enough and equal to or better than the rest! And you should feel the same! And it starts by removing negative thoughts, people and things.
Can we reverse this? Yes! You have control. It’s your life. Start off on a positive note and stay there. Do not let people who do not have your best interests at heart derail you. Those type of people simply need to keep you down so you can share their grief or disappointment, then you feel worse and they feel better. Again, I’m not talking about something truly tragic here, only the things that drain your energy and should be gone in 60 seconds.
Here are a few ways to change the negative into positive:
- Read something positive. It can be the bible or a motivational story or quote.
- Reflect on the things that you are grateful for.
- Make no excuses, being accountable is empowering.
- Avoid the pity party. You don’t have to engage in this behavior or activity.
- Do something for someone else selflessly.
- Dream again. Find those things that inspire you, the dream home, the new electronic gadget, whatever it is, get a picture of it and feel it as if it’s yours.
- Give out positive energy. Encourage someone. Praise someone.
- Smile. This alone is powerful. If you try, you CAN find something to smile about. Think back on a euphoric moment so you can relive that moment of happiness.
- Laugh. Still the best medicine.
- Love. Hug someone. Tell someone that you love them.
- Forgive. Truly forgive. Both yourself and others. This can remove a weight of negative emotions, thoughts and feelings.
You might not be able to reverse things overnight but if you start you will be amazed at what happens. You’ll attract not only positive people, but also positive results. And eventually, the negative people won’t like you as much because you’re no longer fueling their negativity. You’ll be blacklisted from the pity party and you’ll move onto the VIP party.
Is this easy? No, but neither is struggling, so you may as well choose the one that will have a greater return. You need to have the desire, the perseverance and the nerve to be a positive person. Be bold and stand out and nurture a positive attitude!
Your attitude can take you forward or your attitude can take you down. The choice is always yours! – Catherine Pulsifer
Rock Star Sales Trainer