We wake up every morning with a clean slate. Yesterday is over and we have no stress until we encounter events happening throughout the day. Okay, it’s possible that you fell out of bed and the stress started immediately, but mostly we are stress free when we rise and shine.
Stress is a potential exchange of energy. Energy that can drain you, energy that can sustain you. Obviously its best to sustain your energy throughout each day so that you can accomplish all that is required of you, but sometimes the day has challenges that we cannot avoid or change.
The good news is that we can control how much energy we give. Have you ever heard someone continue to lament about a minor event long after it’s been resolved? This is the act of that person draining themselves.
Have you seen people rubbing in someone else’s past mistake over and over again? That’s them punishing another person, sucking the life out them. It’s basically creating tension or sustaining stress. We may not be able to avoid stress, but we can choose how we will react to it. We can allow it to make us sick or we can maintain an inner peace.
Pressure and stress is the common cold of the psyche.
Flip the Switch
Let’s say we had a certain amount of energy allotted to us to get through each day. If you spent too much of it on worry, fear, anger or frustration we wouldn’t make it through the day peacefully. Well, that actually sounds like what happens to us doesn’t it? We can reach a point where the negative energy gets to us and we start to feel drained. Then we say “I give up!”
What we must focus on is the best ways in which to spend our energy. Is it worthwhile to prolong the stress of any event that might not matter one minute, one hour, one day, or one month from now? No. The best thing you can do is choose to move past it.
There’s a big difference between worry and concern, read more on that here. Don’t neglect things that matter, but more importantly don’t erect statues to things that don’t.
Many people wish they had more energy. If this is you, then look towards where you are expending the energy you already have. Is stressing about something affecting your sleep? That’s giving negative energy and power to things that you may be able to let go. If you can’t fix it, don’t feed it.
Are you thinking of ways to overcome these challenges? Or are you thinking you’re doomed to remain stuck? What makes more sense, to be reactive or proactive? Are you creating stress and putting pressure on yourself or others? Let it go and win the day.
Stress is an important dragon to slay, or at least tame in your life.
How many people do you know that “need” coffee first thing in the morning? Why in the world would they need coffee after a night’s sleep? Isn’t something wrong with that? The funny thing is that even coffee doesn’t seem to help everyone, so what’s the problem? They are restless, consumed by fear, worry and negative thoughts throughout the night and then upon waking, they fill up on news and feed more negativity into their brain. Or they don’t enjoy what they’re doing for a living. Yikes!
Since thoughts are energy, our energy can be constantly drained and therefore we never feel rested. Where did the energy go? If you ask, people will tell you that their job, boss, co-workers, spouse, friends, the news or their children stress them out! No wonder coffee doesn’t help. They are not using their internal power to cope. They are constantly draining their core energy source.
In any situation where you might expend energy, ask yourself:
- Is it something that warrants putting energy into it?
- Will this matter tomorrow? If so, why?
- Can I fix it and then be done with it?
- Can I get help with this?
- What were your expectations?
- Can you prevent this in the future?
- What can you do to make it better right now?
There will always be things that need your attention, so you must rationalize how you can help the situation and yourself.
As they say, don’t cry over spilled milk. Clean it up and move on to better things. The sooner you start paying attention to how much energy you give to things that occur throughout the day, the sooner you can sleep better and reenergize. We are overspending our energy resources and then desperately trying to replenish them through outside means.
Stop wasting your energy, start being a positive life force and illuminate others.
There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether to let it affect you or not. Valerie Bertinelli
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer