On Purpose

There comes a special moment in everyone’s life, a moment for which that person was born. That special opportunity, when he seizes it, will fulfill his mission—a mission for which he is uniquely qualified. In that moment he finds greatness. It is his finest hour.

~Winston Churchill

Why are you here? Is it to be a great parent? A movie star? An author? A Doctor? Do you know what your purpose is? What is it that you are called to do? If you don’t know what that is, maybe you can recall one thing that you always wanted to do back when you were a child which still makes sense today? Or what would you love to do right now?

As a teenager I wanted to be a rock star. But as they say, life happened. After a car accident left me injured and unable to play (temporarily), I broke down and got a real job. However I didn’t give up entirely. With the support of some great people I kept the dream alive and got my fix by writing music. Eventually I started drumming again, got my break, went on tour, got radio airplay and shared the stage with some of the very same rock stars I looked up to, including Sebastian Bach, Rob Halford, members of Twisted Sister and Anvil.

Very often we do things by accident. We might end up in a job that doesn’t reflect our passions or doesn’t take advantage of our true talents. Maybe we select a partner who doesn’t fit well enough into our own personality and likes and dislikes. If you like yourself you won’t look for someone who is completely the opposite, because over time that can create opposition.

It’s the same thing in a job. If you choose a career for the money, maybe your motive is off. Also, you might not see the stress that comes with that type of position. If you take on a position because of the passion that it ignites in you then the money will come, even though money may not matter as much because you are living your purpose on a daily basis.

To dream . . .

When I was trying to figure out my own purpose someone asked me this question: What’s the first thing you think about in the morning? If your first thought is “Get me coffee!”, that doesn’t necessarily mean that’s your purpose, although it worked out pretty well for the owner of Starbucks.

Another question to ask yourself is this: What would you do if you didn’t need the money? If you think of lounging on the beach all day you might be selling yourself short. However, maybe you should own a bar or little shop on an island somewhere.

The point is, discover or rediscover what your passion is and dream big! Where do your talents lie? And if you feel that you’re out of the loop, you can always learn the talents necessary to propel your passion forward. So don’t let that stop you. It’s possible that you may have many talents or interests. See if you can connect the dots and create a career path for yourself out of those talents.

It’s always easier to do what you enjoy. You will excel at it because you’re fully equipped for it. When we’re not pursuing what we love and enjoy or are best suited for, it’s not a fun journey. Deep down inside we know we are meant for more. Search within your heart and soul and reignite your passion. Do it on purpose.

Follow your light and brighten the world!

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

Fly to The Angels

I was fascinated with airplanes when I was a child. Growing up very close to New York’s JFK airport allowed me the opportunity to watch these colossal bird-like beasts gracefully cutting through the sky on a daily basis. I would be playing in the schoolyard, hear one coming, and always look up in wonder. At times they seemed so close that you could almost rub their bellies.

I suppose you could say I was in awe of how magnificent this flying feat was. To this day I’m still blown away by it. You’ll catch me observing these winged creatures for longer than most people do as they pass overhead. I’d venture to guess that on a subconscious level, airplanes represent a sense of freedom to me. Doesn’t everyone want to have the ability to fly?

I can’t resist

Even though it might seem that I’m feeling a bit nostalgic, which may be true on some level, that’s not the point of this. You see, as a child I had no idea how these things worked, as in, how did this heavy metal contraption fly? After doing some research, the most incredible thing I learned was that airplanes took off into the wind. One would think that an airplane would need to move along with the wind to help it propel itself into the air, yet that’s not the case. Rather than get into the physics of it, let’s focus on how this can apply to your success.

An airplane is able to both take off, and land more efficiently and effectively by using resistance. It allows the plane to take off faster, and it slows down the plane more quickly during the landing. Many of us have encountered resistance in our lives and careers. Maybe we shared an idea with someone and they shot it down, or we hit a stumbling block while developing a plan or launching a business, but we must always remember, opposition is often an important part of the opportunity to soar to new heights.

Fasten your seat belt

Don’t react to stumbling blocks with discouragement, instead, look at in a non-emotional manner and try to figure out how you can benefit from it. Take criticism at face value and evaluate whether it has any truth to it. Truth that might have a lesson in it. Ask yourself the following;

• What can you do to make the opportunity better?
• What resistance in your life can ultimately help?
• Is there a lesson in it for you?
• What can you learn about your limitations and improve upon them?
• Are there new ways to try something?
• Are you taking on too much by yourself and do you need help?
• Rather than include others who might not embrace the opportunity, would it be better if you did it alone or replaced them?
• Could any negative comments you’re hearing be warning signs of what might deter potential customers from utilizing your product or service?
• Is your business plan sound?

Whether you encounter resistance in your personal life, or your professional life, evaluate the speed bumps and see how you might be able to use them to your advantage. Look for the opportunity in the problem, not the problem in the opportunity. Do not be deterred, but do not simply dismiss it, always try to learn from it. This will allow you to grow and then you too can use resistance to take flight and land successfully at your desired destination. Even if you arrive late, you’ll still get there.

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
~Thomas A. Edison

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

Can You Feel It?

Every now and then I wake up and just don’t feel motivated. I might be a little tired; in fact, I swear that sometimes my life is a series of naps! On these types of days the last thing I want to do is write my blog. Yes, it happens. And since I don’t drink coffee or energy drinks, well . . . you get the point. We all have days like this. And it’s very tempting to play hooky. We want to call in sick to work, hit the snooze button, or put things off until we’re feeling better.

The problem is that letting your priorities or passion go can become a bad habit which derails you.

Do you have more days that you take it easy than the days where you get up and go get em? It’s very easy to settle into lazy mode, especially since we have more than enough things to distract us or frustrate us, things that prevent us from achieving our goals.

Mean it!

What exactly does the word motivation mean? Motivate means “to provide with a motive.” Or, in the etymological sense, an “inner or social stimulus for an action.” Simply put, it’s a reason to do something, an inspiration, or, something that encourages you to take action. It can come from within, or be motivated by others. It’s funny, a paycheck doesn’t always seem to keep people very motivated does it? No, and I’ll get to why later. It seems we often seek something more.

It’s almost unfair that as children we usually have a parent, teacher or coach who encourages us, or keeps us on track. They wake us up for school, encourage us to hang in there, and go the extra mile. Then as adults we’re responsible for our own success, and often responsible for our own motivation.

Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis. ~Zig Ziglar

Feel it!

Do something every day that motivates you, and then act on it. This way you are living the life you deserve on a daily basis. You’ll be impacting others as well as yourself in a positive way, and you’ll feel better about yourself, each and every day.

Here are a few things that might inspire you.

▪   Read the bible for daily motivation, it’s very empowering.
▪   Think of  a newborn in your family and the impact you can have on their future.
▪   Catch a sunrise or sunset and bask in the opportunity or reflect on accomplishments.
▪   Embrace a new love in your life, whether it’s a person, or a hobby.
▪   Put a picture of a new car or home in front of you to motivate you.
▪   Read daily motivational quotes.
▪   Create new goals.
▪   Volunteer. Helping others is very inspiring.
▪   Being able to take care of yourself and your family should be very motivating.
▪   Exercise. This alone can inspire you to action.
▪   Focus on a goal and the positive results of achieving it

Add your own inspiration to this list. Moving along the road toward accomplishment can fuel the rest of the journey.

And will you succeed? Yes indeed, yes indeed! Ninety-eight and three-quarters percent guaranteed! ~Dr Suess

Own it!

Money does not drive everyone. In fact, there are two distinct ways that people are inspired. Yes, the first is fueled by material things like money, a bonus, a trip or a prize. Yet many other people are motivated by the desire to feel appreciated. They want recognition. They feel good about themselves because they were applauded and appreciated and that will inspire them want to do more, and do it well.

You may often hear of an employee complaining that they don’t feel appreciated at work.  That’s not about money, it’s about recognition. Do you need a carrot dangled in front of you? Or would you prefer a pat on the back? Figure out what motivates you and then position yourself to stay that way.

While it is, or should be the responsibility of an employer to learn how each employee is motivated and then cater to them directly, sadly, we are surrounded by people who don’t know how to encourage as much as they should.  They often choose to point out what we did wrong rather than correct us, assist in fixing it or even praise us for the good we did.

Many don’t know how to inspire others properly, they either weren’t taught to or didn’t learn how to do it. That is their responsibility. Once we recognize that simple words of encouragement during a struggle, or after a failure are worth far more than hype or true praise after success, we will be a more productive, happy, motivated force in this world.

“If you have no one to encourage you, instead of using that as an excuse for failure, encourage yourself and use that as a reason why you must succeed.”
~Kevin Ngo

Do it!

Everything that you need is already available to you and always has been. You merely have to tap into what inspires you, every day. If each day, you remind yourself of exactly what impels you, what your goals are and the steps required to achieving them, wouldn’t you be more hopeful and positive and therefore create better results?

The fact is this; NO ONE will support, encourage or motivate you more than you should and can. Our bosses, employees, spouses, friends and children will be there some of the time, but they all have their own lives. So it is up to us, every day, we need to be great! No one will hand us success, wishing won’t help, only action will.

If it is to be, it’s up to thee. You are responsible for your success.
~Rob Liano

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

Turn It On Again! Restoring your Energy

We wake up every morning with a clean slate.  Yesterday is over and we have no stress until we encounter events happening throughout the day. Okay, it’s possible that you fell out of bed and the stress started immediately, but mostly we are stress free when we rise and shine.

Stress is a potential exchange of energy. Energy that can drain you, energy that can sustain you. Obviously its best to sustain your energy throughout each day so that you can accomplish all that is required of you, but sometimes the day has challenges that we cannot avoid or change.

The good news is that we can control how much energy we give.  Have you ever heard someone continue to lament about a minor event long after it’s been resolved? This is the act of that person draining themselves.

Have you seen people rubbing in someone else’s past mistake over and over again? That’s them punishing another person, sucking the life out them. It’s basically creating tension or sustaining stress.  We may not be able to avoid stress, but we can choose how we will react to it. We can allow it to make us sick or we can maintain an inner peace.

Pressure and stress is the common cold of the psyche.
Andrew Denton

Flip the Switch

Let’s say we had a certain amount of energy allotted to us to get through each day. If you spent too much of it on worry, fear, anger or frustration we wouldn’t make it through the day peacefully. Well, that actually sounds like what happens to us doesn’t it? We can reach a point where the negative energy gets to us and we start to feel drained. Then we say “I give up!“

What we must focus on the best ways to spend our energy. Is it worthwhile to prolong the stress of any event that might not matter one minute, one hour, one day, or one month from now? No. The best thing you can do is choose to move past it.

There’s a big difference between worry and concern, read more on that here. Don’t neglect things that matter, but more importantly don’t erect statues to things that don’t.

Many people wish they had more energy. If this is you, then look towards where you are expending the energy you already have. Are you not sleeping well because you’re stressing about something? That’s giving negative energy and power to things that you may be able to let go. If you can’t fix it, don’t feed it.

Are you thinking of ways to overcome these challenges? Or are you thinking you’re doomed to remain stuck? What makes more sense, to be reactive or proactive? Are you creating stress and putting pressure on yourself or others? Let it go and win the day.

Stress is an important dragon to slay, or at least tame in your life.
Marilu Henner

Coffee Break

How many people do you know that “need” coffee first thing in the morning? Why in the world would they need coffee after a night’s sleep?  Isn’t something wrong with that? The funny thing is that even coffee doesn’t seem to help everyone, so what’s the problem? They are restless, consumed by fear, worry and negative thoughts throughout the night and then upon waking, they fill up on news and feed more negativity into their brain. Yikes!

Since thoughts are energy, our energy can be constantly drained and therefore we never feel rested. Where did the energy go? If you ask, people will tell you that their job, boss, co-workers, spouse, friends, the news or their children stress them out! No wonder coffee doesn’t help. They are not using their internal power to cope. They are constantly draining their core energy source.

In any situation where you might expend energy, ask yourself:

1. Is it something that warrants putting energy into it?
2. Will this matter tomorrow? If so, why?
3. Can I fix it and then be done with it?
4. Can I get help with this?
5. What were your expectations?
6. Can you prevent this in the future?
7. What can you do to make it better right now?

There will always be things that need your attention, so you must rationalize how you can help the situation and yourself.

As they say, don’t cry over spilled milk. Clean it up and move on to better things. The sooner you start paying attention to how much energy you give to things that occur throughout the day, the sooner you can sleep better and reenergize. We are overspending our energy resources and then desperately trying to replenish them through outside means.

Stop wasting your energy, start being a positive life force and illuminate others.

There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether to let it affect you or not. Valerie Bertinelli

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

Time After Time

 

There is no question that time is our single greatest asset. When invested wisely it can reap more benefits than you could ever imagine. Time is the great equalizer.

Each day, we have the same amount of time that Bill Gates has, that Thomas Edison had, or anyone else who achieved great success in their life.

Time evens the score. It levels the playing field. Are you wasting time? Let’s look at this example to find out. If you spend just one hour per day on:

• Facebook
• Blogs
• Forums
• Gaming
• Myspace
• Twitter
• TV
• The Internet

That adds up to seven hours each week. Now that might not sound like much; but it’s approximately 30 hours in one month, or about 360 hours in a year. That’s FIFTEEN 24 hour days of your time GONE. Over two weeks of your life lost, never to return, or yield a significant reward.

Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.
~William Penn

Time Out

That two weeks lost is solely based on wasting just one hour per day, statistically the average American watches 4 hours of TV per day. And whether at work or at home, they also average just under two hours per day on the internet.

Could this be why the average American is average?

Now don’t get me wrong – I’m a fan of entertainment, recreation and a little R & R – but you need to evaluate if your balance is slightly off, or entirely off. If you have things you want to improve upon such as your weight, your finances or your relationships, look to where you invest your time and you’ll clearly see why you aren’t making progress.

If we aren’t contributing something that’s beneficial to others, or improving ourselves during that one hour (or more) per day then that means we choose to lose that time. What exactly does that accomplish? Not much when you think about it. I hear people say, “I just don’t have the time”, when actually, most people just aren’t managing their time properly.

Time = life; therefore, waste your time and waste of your life, or master your time and master your life.
~Alan Lakein

Return of Investment

What else can you do with seven hours each week that would make your life more successful or rewarding?

• Exercise
• Call friends or family you haven’t spoke to
• Read (increased learning is tied to increased earning)
• Learn a foreign language
• Meditate
• Volunteer anywhere
• Do yoga
• Take cooking lessons
• Mentor someone
• Start a new venture
• Bake cookies from scratch and give them to neighbors
• Write out your goals and how to achieve them
• Start writing a book or novel (just one page a day is 365 pages in one year)
• Keep a journal
• Start a garden
• Learn an instrument
• Talk to your spouse or children
• Make your dreams a reality!

I’m sure there’s much more we can add to the list above. Often, the reason why many people don’t accomplish all that they desire is they don’t have a goal. And even when they do have a goal, they waste time rather than dedicate the time it takes to pursue that goal.

When people say something had “bad timing” that’s usually because they did not use time properly.  They did not prepare enough, or stop to take time to think before doing something.

Spend a few days tracking your time, see what you’re doing with it and when you’re doing it. Next, plan out better use of your time by creating a schedule with priorities in place. You won’t ever have to ask yourself where the time went at the end of the day if you know where it’s going before that day starts.

The key is in not spending time, but in investing it.
~Stephen R. Covey

Timing is Everything

I’ll bet that you can find more than 60 minutes in a day but if for some reason you can’t, then you can wake up 1/2 hour earlier and go to sleep 1/2 hour later. Your body will adjust. You could always coordinate your schedule so that you might find a spot to add a nap, or sleep in late one day. Once you choose to control your time, you decide when and where you can do what you should be doing.

Take a time management quiz here. Mind Tools

Just think of the possibilities. Whether it’s in sales, business or life in general, what would that one extra hour (or more) do for you? You could be more efficient, earn more money, get organized, have better relationships and ultimately feel better about yourself, but only if you invest your time into those things that bring a long-term reward.

You must commit to changing your life in the areas that you want, rather than settle for any immediate gratification which fades quickly and is soon forgotten.

Do not wait until tomorrow, do not make excuses. The time to start is now. You have been given this great asset of time until you breathe your last breath, use it wisely.

We don’t have an eternity to realize our dreams, only the time we are here. 
~Susan Taylor

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

Burn the Ships!

 

In the early 16th century, a Spanish conquistador led an expedition that caused the fall of the Aztec Empire and brought large portions of mainland Mexico under the rule of the King of Castile. He was a part of what began the Spanish colonization of the Americas.

His name was Hernando Cortez.

There is famous story about Hernando Cortez. Whether it’s 100% accurate or not seems to be of some debate, but I would like to share it with you.  The point it illustrates is without a doubt 100% beneficial.

Spring of 1519

Traveling by sea, when Hernando Cortez and his men landed in Mexico one of the first orders he gave was to burn the ships. This may sound shocking and like something you might hear in a blockbuster movie, but Cortez was so committed to his mission that he did not want to allow himself or his men to even entertain the option of going back. His message was simply this:

Succeed or die.

Cortez and his men were forced to focus on what it would take to win. He had no way of knowing what he and his men would encounter in their journey. What he did know was that by “burning the ships” he had completely eliminated the possibility of going back. Failure was NOT an option. They HAD to find a way to win.

He created an intensely powerful need to succeed. Additionally, since he must have thought they would succeed, he instilled confidence in his men. Of this we can be sure . . . his plan was certainly not to die on that day.

To guarantee success, act as if it were impossible to fail.
~Dorothea Brande

Follow the Stars

When I was young, I had dreams of being a rock star and I put my whole heart into it. I lived, breathed and ate drums. And yes, I had long hair and even wore spandex. I also skipped college while I held odd jobs just so that I could pursue my burning desire. Then I started to get some advice from those that were “older and wiser” than I, and it often sounded like this:

“You should really think about the future. You know, have something to fall back on, it’s a tough business you’re trying to break into, not a lot of people succeed at it.”

While the person saying this might think they’re looking out for you, I’m sure you can see the negativity in that statement. This type of thinking will lead you to believe that you will most likely fall back; that you won’t succeed and that “yeah, it IS tough”, especially if you might have already faced a struggle. It plants psychological seeds of doubt. This is how your dreams die. Wouldn’t it be better to plant seeds of life?

It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts.
~Robert H. Schuller

Many people think that by having a back up plan, you’re being prepared. But the reality is this; you’re actually preparing to fail. It can do much more harm than good. Here’s why. By putting time and effort into “something to fall back on” you have to take time away from pursuing your passions, and that will either deter, or delay your achieving it.

When you start to think in the back of your mind “well if I fail I could always . . .” it changes your actions and your focus. It will discourage you. Cortez and his men had to find a way to win the battle with nothing to fall back on. They had to figure out any and every way to triumph. Their very lives depended upon it.

Doesn’t your life depend on your success?

Is the advice to have something to fall back upon ever what you hear from someone who is a rock star? A millionaire? An entrepreneur? A conquistador? Someone who has succeeded greatly? No, it’s usually coming from someone who is average and no better off than you are.

People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.
~Chinese Proverb

The Choice is yours

What if you knew you HAD TO succeed? What would you do differently? Would you plan and prepare more? Work harder? Build a better army? Focus more? Look for solutions? Learn more? Waste less time? Persevere? Of course you would! You would be left with no other choice. If you start doing all of this right now, then in no time . . .

BOOM! Success just might hit you like a cannonball!

You see, Cortez made it impossible to fail, and the story ends that he did, in fact, succeed greatly. So what ships do you have to burn? What fears do you have to eliminate? What limiting beliefs do you have to overcome?

Burn the Ships!

Now I’m not saying to tell your boss to shove it, especially if you need an income to put food on the table, even though doing so has served as a catalyst for others. But right now that might create stress. You must carefully prepare a sound plan and act on that plan immediately and diligently. If you give 100% to your mission you’ll enjoy more success than you can imagine. You cannot let seeds of doubt grow in your mind. Forge ahead!

If you only go halfway to just try it out, and then you fail, you will have regrets, rumblings below the surface, this feeling of failure along with a sense of remorse. You might already know the feeling I mean, and it’s not warm and fuzzy.

It’s possible that you can succeed where others have failed. I, through perseverance, went on to succeed in music. I’ve been on tour, appeared on TV and radio while others fell back on something they don’t really enjoy. Did I struggle? Absolutely. Was it worth it? Heck yeah!

Get out of the boat and burn the ships. And remember, evaluate any advice that you’re given and decide if it’s credible or not. Has it worked for others? Will it work for you? Act on what motivates and inspires you, set sail and get excited, you CAN conquer the world, or at the very least, your world!

I’ve got a theory that if you give 100 percent all of the time, somehow things will work out in the end.
~Larry Bird

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

I Give Up!

After feeling overwhelmed or discouraged with something you were attempting, have you ever said “I give up!” in sheer frustration? Sometimes people bang their heads against the wall and expect the wall to break before their skull does; but that only happens in movies.

Before you decide to give up, or you ding up your head, have you really tried everything?

Don’t hang your head in defeat before you’ve looked at every possible option. You might hit a speed bump or two along the way, but don’t pull over and throw the keys away. It’s actually more of a defeat when you give up without trying your best. That can lead to regret and regret can haunt you forever. You don’t want to live the rest of your life thinking, “If I only”do you?

There is no failure except in no longer trying.
~Elbert Hubbard

I’ve created a checklist of several components that you should try before you throw in the towel. This might get you started properly, or put you back on track to achieving your goals and dreams

Is your goal clearly defined?

It is difficult to hit a goal if you don’t know what it is. If you want to earn more money, exactly how much do you want to earn? If you want to lose weight, how much do you want to lose? What will you do to make it happen? What will you commit to? What will you sacrifice to achieve this goal?

If you simply say that you want a car, you may not get exactly what you want. But if you say you want a Black Convertible Mustang with navigation and a beige leather interior, it’ll be much easier to find exactly what you’re looking for. You can then research the price of this particular vehicle and know how much money you would need to get it and determine the best place to buy it. Be specific.

A goal properly set is halfway reached.
~Zig Ziglar

Have you exhausted every possible option?

Sometimes we try one or two things hoping that’s all it will take. There may be many ways to achieve your goal. If you wanted to build your immune system you could switch up your diet, get proper rest, exercise, stay hydrated, have a positive attitude, take the right vitamins or try any combination (or all) of these to achieve that goal.

Look into how many ways there are that might help you to get to your destination and remember, there’s more than one way to skin a cat.

How long should you try? Until.
~Jim Rohn

Have you set a timeline to achieve the goal?

As I mention here, you must have a way to track your progress. You can do this by setting a deadline. It’s the same as when you were in school and needed to finish a paper by Friday, or when you had to have a report on your boss’ desk by Tuesday afternoon.

1. Set the goal: i.e. “I want to earn $80,000″
2. Decide when you want to accomplish it
3. Get to work

But having set myself these goals, I had to work really hard to achieve them.
~Imran Khan

After you set a timeline, then you can  . . .

Define and refine the steps as you progress.

This is simple. Just like a GPS system in your vehicle, you must outline all of the steps it will take for you to achieve your goal. Read this for more insight on this one.

Remember you can always shift gears if you are ahead of schedule or if need more time. Perhaps you can step it up to meet the deadline if you’ve fallen behind. You’re the boss here, these are your goals, so you make the rules.

When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.
~Confucius

Have you removed the ‘self’ in the equation and any impure motives?

Sometimes we act on emotion, or with self interest and we don’t see anything beyond that. In relationships we want a certain outcome to the point where we don’t see any other possibilities. That process can lead to disaster and disappointment.

Clear your head and your heart, think, and then act on what’s in everyone’s best interest over the long term.

It is not because the truth is too difficult to see that we make mistakes, we make mistakes because the easiest and most comfortable course for us is to seek insight where it accords with our emotions – especially selfish ones.
~Alexander Solzhenitsyn

For more on motives, click here

Have you asked for an unbiased opinion as to how you might do better from someone who’s sole intent is for you to succeed?

There’s a lot of negativity in this world. People will say you can’t do something, or ask why you want to. There are even those who will say you’re not smart enough, talented enough or thin enough to do it.

Who cares what they think!

Find someone who has accomplished what you want to accomplish and ask them how they did it. Follow their model. How can you expect someone to help you if they never did what you want to do and know nothing about it? If you have this dream then it’s meant for you to act on it and carry it out, not anyone else. That also means that you can do it! Your heart or gut will not set you up to fail.

Listen to your heart and block out the noise.

Don’t follow any advice, no matter how good, until you feel as deeply in your spirit as you think in your mind that the counsel is wise. 
~Joan Rivers

Have you surrounded yourself with the right people to achieve the goal?

It’s difficult if not impossible to make it on our own, even if it’s only a simple “you got this” from someone else, we need people around us to help us move towards our goals.

Besides encouragement or guidance, we also usually need other help at some point. Who will you need to help you achieve your goals?

• Will you need your spouse or a friend to pick up your kids one or two days per week?
• Will you need a trainer to achieve your health goals?
• Will you need someone to teach you how to use social media to your advantage?

Whatever it is, figure it out and find them. They’re out there.

As I said, we live in a  world where we can be bombarded with negativity so we must seek out those who might encourage us or lead us in the right direction.

I don’t think anybody can push themselves without some help.
~Sean Burke

Have you learned all you can regarding the goal in order to successfully achieve it?

Most people run full speed into things with  a lot of desire but with little preparation or knowledge. That desire can fizzle out pretty quickly after some setbacks occur.  You must be as knowledgeable and as prepared as possible to succeed.  This will give you the confidence necessary to carry it out.

The more you learn, the more you earn. The more you know, the more you grow.

If you want to have a great relationship then shouldn’t you learn all you can about how to do it? Would you try to fix your own car without knowing a thing about mechanics? No, that’s why you bring it to an expert. Therefore you must become an expert at what it is you want to accomplish. Will it take time? Yes. Will the time pass anyway? Yes, so pass the time productively and move steadily towards tour goals.

Remember, you got this!

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.
~Dale Carnegie

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

The Will to Win

Can you believe we’re into February already?  That means we only have 11 months left to make our 2013 goals become a reality.

This next salute to the greats is from Bob Proctor, star of The Secret!

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I really want to help you create the life of your dreams right now … I have been studying human growth a potential for more than 50 years and for more than 44 of those years I’ve been helping individuals just like you and me earn more money than they can spend, create thriving businesses (even in ‘poor economic’ times), have meaningful relationships, experience good health and ultimately accomplish time and money freedom.

Every day you and I are being bombarded with negatives. Politics, prices, the economy, interest rates – you name it, we’re hearing about it … bad news. Supreme mental strength is required to keep your mind on a track that will lead to a positive end result.

Now is an excellent time to put your nose into a few history books. You will find the stories of men and women who have continued to win, in spite of what was happening all around them. There have always been personalities who took the economic environment as it existed in their day, and instead of letting it guide their every move, they continued with life as if it had little or no effect on their results. Successful business people have always done that and probably always will.

Regardless of what the economic environment was like, some people have figured out how to overcome it. There is, as it turns out, always a way. This optimistic statement seems worth expanding on.

In every era, including our own, people have a tendency to believe that the day of great wealth gathering opportunities are over. For whatever reason, the era that just passed always looks better! People are always blaming circumstances for their results … that high taxes, high prices, high labor costs and numerous other problems are preventing them from making it.

Do as winners have always done and accentuate the positive. Get on the “I can” mental frequency! I love what George Bernard Shaw shared with us on this very subject. Shaw said,

“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances that they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”

Create the circumstances you want.

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

No Limits!

Next up in my tribute to the Rock Stars before me is one of my all time favorites, Zig Ziglar. I was fortunate enough to see him speak live before he passed away, and even in his golden years he was truly inspiring! His legacy will live on forever.

Yesterday’s Impossibles

By Zig Ziglar

I remember the media coverage which accompanied Sir Edmund Hillary’s feat of being the first person to scale Mt. Everest.  He became an instant celebrity, even though he had failed in his first effort and left five of his guides dead on the mountainside.  England recognized Sid Edmund Hillary’s tremendous effort by giving him the highest honor awarded a foreigner.  Years later he was back in the headlines when his son climbed to the peak of Mt. Everest and a radio-phone conversation was held between father and son.

Today, according to the government of Nepal, it’s very common for climbers to reach the peak of Mt. Everest.  As a matter of fact, a one-day record of 37 people reaching the summit of Mt. Everest has been reported.  Seven teams arrived within a half-hour period and created a climber’s traffic jam.  Yes, yesterday’s impossibles often become tomorrow’s standards.

On September 6, 1995, one of the world’s “unbreakable” records was broken.  I speak of the “Iron Man” stunt of Lou Gehrig, who played in 2,130 consecutive baseball games.  Gehrig’s record was thought to be unbreakable, but Cal Ripken broke that record and extended that streak to make it even more “impossible.”  Another record considered unbreakable was the number of hits Ty Cobb had gotten, but several years ago Pete Rose broke that “unbreakable” record.  Today 12-year-old girls are swimming faster than Johnny Weismuller swam when he was the Olympic Gold Medal winner.

Most of us get excited when we read about super-human achievements, but something that is much more important is when we break our own personal best records for accomplishments.  Achieving better grades, a better work record, a better record of “being nice,” and a host of other records will make you a better person in the most important game of all – the game of life.

Think about it – give it your best shot – break your own personal records and you will be AT THE TOP!

If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.
~Robert Fritz

Don’t believe what your eyes are telling you. All they show is limitation. Look with your understanding, find out what you already know, and you’ll see the way to fly.
~Richard Bach

There are no such things as limits to growth, because there are no limits to the human capacity for intelligence, imagination, and wonder.
~Ronald Reagan

Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)

Anger Management

A simple illustration as to why we should control our emotions. Sometimes we can get mad at a spouse or friend, our boss and even a client, but we are responsible for how we react. Our words have power to hurt or heal, choose wisely.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” 
~Ambrose Pierce

Nails in the Fence

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.”

The little boy then understood how powerful his words were. He looked up at his father and said, “I hope you can forgive me father for the holes I put in you.”

“Of course I can,” said the father.

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Rob Liano
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Trainer
www.rockstarsalestraining.com
1.855.832.ROCK (7625)