Everyone has something in their life that they want to improve, whether it’s related to fitness, finances, or family. Being a life coach, one thing I’ve noticed is that, too often when people want to change their lives, they begin by trying to do several things all at once. Such an approach can be overwhelming, and lead to discouragement and failure–if one even gets started at all.
I’ll use fitness as an example. A person decides that they want to get in better shape, and they are very enthusiastic about it, so in one fell swoop they:
- Join a gym
- Go on a diet
- Start drinking more water
- Change their daily routine
- Buy spandex
But if they haven’t done anything like this in a long time, it can be a very demanding goal. And the spandex might not look very flattering! Okay, I’m joking of course, but you get the point. Attempting too much, too soon can be setting yourself up for failure.
Imagine if all of a medical student’s lessons were crammed into one day, one week, or even one month? They’d remember little of what they were shown, and would certainly fail, because it was too much to handle. Teaching is purposely done in increments, so that we can digest and retain as much information as possible. We should look at creating new success habits the same way.
One on One
Rather than do all of these things at once, essentially throwing a monkey wrench into your life, perhaps you should try taking it one task at a time. Make one change in order to begin creating a new, better habit that will be beneficial to achieving your goal, and commit to it every day.
First Things First
Try this positive change in your daily routine, and see how it affects your health and sense of wellbeing. These small changes that can have a big impact:
- When you wake up in the morning, take a little time to stretch or do some simple yoga. Even ten or fifteen minutes can have a positive impact on the rest of your day.
- Set reminders in your smartphone to drink water throughout the day. Drinking more water will not only help you to burn more calories, it will also keep your brain hydrated, allowing you to think better.
- Walk for a half hour in the morning. This will give your metabolism a good jump-start. And, like yoga, it will make you feel better the whole day.
Do this consistently over a 30 day period (for a new habit to be formed, it must be done consistently). Then think about adding another positive change that will propel you towards your goals.
I really want you to try this, and let me know what impact, if any, it had on your quality of life.
How to Get Started
Getting started forming new, positive habits is easier than you might think. Just follow these three steps:
One: From an overall perspective, make a conscious decision about what you’d like to change or improve in your life. For example:
- Earn more money.
- Have better relationships.
- Become more valuable and knowledgeable.
- Get fit.
- Be happy.
Two: Choose one action that you can do to improve in the area you desire. Such as:
- Go to school part time.
- Learn more about your career.
- Free up more time by waking up earlier.
- Read a new book to increase your knowledge.
- Call friends and family.
- Practice being consciously grateful.
Decide what new habit will help you the most. If necessary, start with the one that would be the easiest for you to commit to.
So choose it, plan what it takes to do it, and then get started!
Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until you get there.
~ Josh Billings
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