It takes but one positive thought when given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an entire army of negative thoughts.
~ Robert H. Schuller
As a mentor and a business coach, I’m always looking for any lessons that real life can teach us about success. For instance, recently A Football Life (NFL network) ran a documentary on Marty Schottenheimer.
To give you some background, Marty Schottenheimer was an NFL player, but more notably he went on to coach the Cleveland Browns, Kansas City Chiefs, Washington Redskins, and San Diego Chargers. He’s one of only a six coaches that had over 200 wins in their career. No small feat.
As I said, I am always on the lookout for insights into success, and there were several takeaways from this documentary that can be helpful for achieving your goals in life and business.
The Midnight Rule
After a tough loss in the playoffs, Marty was feeling down in the dumps, and couldn’t shake it. Finally, his wife basically said, enough is enough. She gave him until midnight to feel bad about it. After that, he had to let it go, so that tomorrow he could get to work on improving or fixing the problem.
What a great concept: it’s okay to feel the emotion, but then, after allowing ourselves to feel it, we should learn from our mistakes and move on, so that we can do it better the next time. That is what growth is all about. We mustn’t dwell on our failures, or wallow in self pity. What good good does it do to lament over something that we can’t change? Why beat ourselves up? The past is just that, the past.
Yesterday is the history chapter in the book of life, isn’t it time you turned the page? ~ Rob Liano
One Play at a Time
As a player, Marty had a missed an important tackle, and it irritated him so much that he then made mental errors on the next several plays. That’s when Marty adopted “one play at a time”, which is like a condensed version of the midnight rule.
Marty knew that oftentimes we can let one failure or mistake lead to other mistakes or missed opportunities. We basically ruin other opportunities because we made a mental error or weren’t prepared well enough.
The One play at a Time rule says that we can only take one step at a time to move toward our goals. And just because we might stumble on one step, it doesn’t mean we have to fall (or fail) entirely. We must shake it off and move to the next step, taking any lesson with us.
One thing at a time, all things in succession. That which grows fast withers as rapidly; and that which grows slow endures. ~ J. G. Holland
When someone says “put your heart into it”, we should assume they mean passion and courage. As in, give it your best shot, 100%. That is the only way to be sure that you’ll have no regrets, even if you fail. As long as you give it your best effort, you’ll be okay. It’s only when you don’t give it your best that you are haunted by regret, when those thoughts of “If I only . . .” eat away at you in the middle of the night!
Are you putting your heart into your work, your relationship, and your life? Starting today, do it one play at a time until midnight, and watch how success comes your way!
All happiness depends on courage and work.
~ Honoré de Balzac
Rock Star Life Coach & Sales Strategist